The question for us may be, what are our family values?
Our world has many voices crying out to set the value table at your household – social groups, political leaders, educational organizations, and the church. However well-intended they may be, the responsibility of defining and educating our children falls squarely on the shoulders of parents. Upon what foundation will my children educate their descendants?
May I suggest a starting place? Value education begins with the truth of sacred Scripture. “In the beginning God…created.” A divine plan containing male and female aspects underlies the institution of marriage and family. Existing for centuries before our preferences and diversities, a clear pattern of male-female interchange is reflected throughout all societies. Families who begin here to teach marriage values give their children a universal truth rather than situational pleasure as the bed rock of life.
In the crucible of marriage is the possibility of commitment that teaches a child to trust the parents who brought him into existence and the shared ability they have to guide him toward hopeful reality in the world. That courageous trust allows an exploration of values and concerns on the foundation of solid teaching.
Values are modeled for our children as we live out the realities of our lives. In this context a child may ask questions without fear and receive honest answers to his inquiries. No parent need fear that process. Our living witness to the values we espouse provides the most powerful, if not always the most eloquent, answer as to why we live as we do.
When the values you believe are rooted in truth, your child will discover a solid foundation on which to develop his faith and thinking. That child will undoubtedly choose his parents’ loving admonitions over those of any political purveyor of “city values.”
So, here are your questions: who determines your family values? And who is teaching them to your children? These are the questions parents must answer.