A: No one is in greater spiritual danger than the person who feels no need of God. And that’s your situation, for if you think you have no need for forgiveness, then you won’t ever bother to turn to God.
And yet (as I said), this places you in great spiritual danger, for it means you’ll never feel any need to have God in your life. But someday, we all must stand before God, and then the blazing searchlight of His holiness will illuminate every corner of our souls. Then we will be seen for what we truly are: sinners who stand in constant need of God’s forgiveness and grace. Jesus warned that in that day, “There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed, or hidden that will not be made known” (Luke 12:2). Those are solemn words, and I pray you’ll take them seriously.
Don’t confuse true guilt with feelings of guilt. You may not feel guilty, and when you compare yourself with other people, perhaps it’s somewhat understandable. But God doesn’t compare us with other people. You may never have murdered anyone, but have you ever been angry at someone? You may never have stolen anything, but have you ever coveted what belongs to others?
I challenge you to ask God to help you see yourself as He sees you — as someone who falls far short of His standard of perfection. I challenge you most of all to turn to Christ and open your heart and life to Him. Jesus said, “Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness, but will have the light of life” (John 8:12).
Q: I thought I was making the right move when I dumped my husband and moved in with another man a couple of years ago. But now he’s thrown me out, my ex-husband has remarried, my kids don’t want anything to do with me, and I’m left out in the cold. How could I have been so stupid? I hope others learn from my experience. — K.S.
A: I also hope others will learn from your experience, because the road you’ve gone down might look very tempting to them, but (as you’ve discovered) the devil never delivers what he promises. He promises happiness and freedom and excitement but only delivers heartache, slavery and emptiness.
However, as I’ve often said, one of life’s hardest lessons is that we cannot change the past. If you had it to do over again, you’d almost certainly not make the decisions you made. Instead, you’d have done everything you could to keep your marriage together. But you chose to go your own way, and now you’re suffering the consequences. The Bible warns, “Like a city whose walls are broken through is a person who lacks self-control” (Proverbs 25:28).
You can’t change the past, but with God’s help you can change the future. God loves you in spite of the way you’ve ignored Him and wants to forgive you and help you get your feet on the right path. Turn to Him and ask Christ to cleanse you and direct you.
I can’t promise everything will suddenly change, but I can promise this: God will be with you, and He will help you as you yield yourself to Him every day. Don’t go down the wrong road again, but commit your life to Christ today.
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