On Sunday, Dec. 29, 2013, Ryan Quinton wed his sweetheart Kali Shay Dobson in Ball Ground. The ceremony would be the fairy tale wedding they had longed for. The pictures I have seen through social media show them to be a beautiful couple. Their happiness was evident from their smiles.
Only a few hours after vowing their love to one another, they left the wedding reception to start their lives together as husband and wife.
Then tragedy struck.
The car they were in left the roadway, resulting in an accident that took the life of the beautiful young bride.
It is sad when anyone dies. It is especially sad when a young person dies. But to lose your life only a few hours after saying your wedding vows is something that very few people worldwide will ever experience. The pain her husband, family, and friends are feeling must be unimaginable.
Incidents of this nature tend to attract the media. This particular story made the local and national news. There are countless numbers of news reports about this tragedy online. I certainly can understand that because of the rarity of an event of this nature. So I have no problem with the media sharing this story of tragedy with us if for no other reason than to let us know we need to pray for this family. That is the job of the media.
And although the media reported the facts as they were given them by law enforcement, they seem to do so with great sympathy for all associated with this tragedy.
But then I began to read some of the comments associated with the story. It never ceases to amaze me how brilliant some people are that have no idea why or how this accident occurred. However, they feel this need to voice their opinion.
Law enforcement is working this case like any other accident that involves a death. Standard tests are conducted to see if there is anything that might have contributed to the accident. I am in law enforcement and am not privy to the results of these tests and therefore can’t even provide an educated guess as to the future. But many online have been free with their opinions.
Like I said in the opening of this column, I have never met Ryan or Kali. But I know a lot of people that have. And those people are grieving over the loss of this sweet young lady.
The people that love this couple aren’t making public comments about the law enforcement investigation in this case. They are making comments about how their hearts are broken over this great loss.
So I tell you what I am going to do. I am going to pray for Ryan and the rest of the family of Kali Shay. I have no judgments as to this tragedy. I only have compassion for the loss each of you has suffered.
I wish we lived in a kinder world. I wish we lived in a world where people would rally together during a tragedy instead of pointing fingers. I wish we lived in a world that understands the need for a family to grieve without some trying to cast a shadow over their grief. But we don’t.
So let’s just let law enforcement do their job and stay out of it. The media will let us know what we need to know. And it appears to me as if the media has shown great compassion while reporting the facts of this story.
Kali’s family and friends need our continued prayers, as do the ones sharing their opinions without understanding.
If you have ever heard Kali sing as I have on the radio, then you know that she had talent. And from her friends I read she had something more important; a testimony of God’s saving grace in her life.
I have lost the truest of love in my life, but not to death. It was lost to poor decisions on my part. It hurts. Ryan’s pain is greater.
Ryan, we live is a cruel world sometimes. People like to hear themselves talk. But listen closer. God has many talking to him on your behalf.
Chris Collett is a lifelong resident of Cherokee County.